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01-09-2010, 12:38 PM | #21 |
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Why is everyone in the community sympathizing with her. To be honest most tours In combat zone are 12 to 15 months long. What does her husband do? Seriously, many soldiers use PTSD especially young soldiers as a excuse to promoto sympathy, war stories. I know the type. Same types that tell exaggerated war stories, buy un authorized awards and wear them. Finally lets be serious, They seem to be fairly young couple, with inability to cope with emotions. Mostly immature, and in experience. I was an Infantryman for 11 years, before I changed went OCS and became a mental health professional for the Army. So im fairly good at reading people and decifering typical works such as the curent post by ms. Riot. I hope she gets the help she needs, but chances are they will be another stat similar to many young military couples.
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01-09-2010, 12:44 PM | #22 |
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I just read all the above and basically it's an expression of care and concern that the people here have for you. Isn't that cool? I understand the need to communicate with someone and get help or support or even just to know someone else cares. You got that and some good advice (and a little bad advice). Having been married for almost 10 years, I would add one thing: every relationship naturally moves from the sparkle/interested phase to the hum drum, dull, and routine phase. What I mean is, no relationship can sustain the excitement and effort given when the relationship is new and both are striving to win the other. That's ok, and it can settle into something deeper and fantastic. Before I got married, people kept telling me marriage is work. I didn't get that for the first year (what work?). Looks like you are seeing the work now too. May the Lord help you and him in doing this work.
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01-09-2010, 12:50 PM | #23 |
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Because people understand what it's like to be treated like crap when it isn't their fault.
Having a stranger tell them they're lying and/or are exaggerating their story doesn't help, it's dickish, suggesting places to go to get help is more productive. On the other hand, I agree, I'm super cynical/realistic when it comes to marriage/couples, I don't believe human beings are programmed to be with one mate for their whole lives, that's why the divorce rate is so high. Marriage isn't natural. But hey, if they want to stay together, then what the hell, good for them, this world needs more love. Last edited by DrNightmare; 01-09-2010 at 12:53 PM.. |
01-09-2010, 12:57 PM | #24 |
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Why is everyone in the community sympathizing with her. To be honest most tours In combat zone are 12 to 15 months long. What does her husband do? Seriously, many soldiers use PTSD especially young soldiers as a excuse to promoto sympathy, war stories. I know the type. Same types that tell exaggerated war stories, buy un authorized awards and wear them. Finally lets be serious, They seem to be fairly young couple, with inability to cope with emotions. Mostly immature, and in experience. I was an Infantryman for 11 years, before I changed went OCS and became a mental health professional for the Army. So im fairly good at reading people and decifering typical works such as the curent post by ms. Riot. I hope she gets the help she needs, but chances are they will be another stat similar to many young military couples.
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01-09-2010, 01:02 PM | #25 |
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Number 1, I want to thank your husband for his service, people like him are the reason people like us have our everyday rights. Number 2 I am no expert in this subject, I am just providing you some insight on what i have seen. My Father in law was in Vietnam he volunteered when he was 18 and was put on the front lines. He was there for almost a full tour, and in that time he was in 100's of fire fights, but yet never once saw who was shooting at him, can you image how stress full that would be!! All he ever saw was dead bodies or blood trails after the firing stopped. He finally got a ticket home when on a trail his squad came under fire, he was shot in the chest, small hole in the front but the size of a softball exit wound in his back. It took him along time to get back into the swing of things of regular life, he would have nightmares and once choked my wife when she was a child when she tried to climb into bed with him. But over time he has learned to appreciate what he has now and lets memories be memories. Time can be a great healer. Hope you the best.
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01-09-2010, 01:06 PM | #26 |
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Why is everyone in the community sympathizing with her. To be honest most tours In combat zone are 12 to 15 months long. What does her husband do? Seriously, many soldiers use PTSD especially young soldiers as a excuse to promoto sympathy, war stories. I know the type. Same types that tell exaggerated war stories, buy un authorized awards and wear them. Finally lets be serious, They seem to be fairly young couple, with inability to cope with emotions. Mostly immature, and in experience. I was an Infantryman for 11 years, before I changed went OCS and became a mental health professional for the Army. So im fairly good at reading people and decifering typical works such as the curent post by ms. Riot. I hope she gets the help she needs, but chances are they will be another stat similar to many young military couples.
BACK ON TOPIC: Mrs. Riot - get some help. Get his family involved. Talk to the people that support you guys: family, friends, clergy....whoever you need to go to - go to them. Do not do this alone as you do not have the qualifications to see him through this. But remember that, you are not alone in this and there are others that can offer support and guidance. Correct guidance. If it gets violent - utilize tough love and walk away from the situation. you do not have to walk away from him but you cannot put you in harms way, ever. I hope it all works out for you in the end... I really do. |
01-09-2010, 01:08 PM | #27 |
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My father-in-law hates the idea of PTSD, he thinks its an excuse, he thinks its a way or soldiers to take advantage of the system. I can not say since I was never in combat.
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01-09-2010, 01:11 PM | #28 |
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01-09-2010, 01:13 PM | #29 |
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The best thing you can do is get a hobby. If I don't keep my hands busy, I get really destructive. So guess why I'm here on a message board, painting toys, eating a sandwich, listening to music? Keep myself distracted so I don't go do something stupid like kill my wife for trying to touch me at night. Last edited by DrNightmare; 01-09-2010 at 01:15 PM.. |
01-09-2010, 01:14 PM | #30 |
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I will keep you and your husband in my prayers. That is about the only think I can do. There seems to be a lot of great advice in this thread. God Bless you and your husband.
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