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09-09-2017, 05:23 PM | #1 |
Ninja Commando
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It's been a long time since I have posted anything on the site or even visited it to be honest. Some of you may remember me some of you this is the first post you have seen from me.
It's hard to explain I still love Joe and my other interests but it just doesn't mean that much anymore. I didn't all of a sudden "grow up" or anything like that. It is now just a month since it marked the two year anniversary of my wife passing away. It still doesn't seem real. She thought it was so cute that I was into Joe as much as I was and when we could still find them on pegs she would call me from stores and say "do you have this guy or this vehicle?" Even when she traveled out of town for work she would find a toy store selling vintage and she would surprise me with something. She never said anything about how much I spent or how big my collection was....well most of the time. God I miss her. My life pretty much ended with her. My therapist said to get back to those things I love....hunting, fishing, camping, Joes, sports...and I am like meh. I try. I really do, but when I do any of those I just don't get the enjoyment anymore. I still get some of the subscription Joes and some old vintage stuff...out of a habit but the joy of it seem gone. We never had kids even though we tried. She loved my plan of having a little boy and once he got to a certain age he would walk down one Christmas morning to find my entire vintage and all the recent Joes there for him. passing on my collection to my son.....that will never happen now. I think once I get my FLAGG and Defiant I may hang it up for good. I just don't know. This board is filled with great guys who all share a passion for Joe. I have met some of you at past conventions, and met up to have a few beers with more than a few times....I'm looking at you Loc, lol. I just thought I'd give it a shot and post. Maybe my passion can get a kick start. |
09-09-2017, 06:18 PM | #2 |
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You need to listen to your therapist. Sadly, with a passion such as ours- it's rare to meet anyone in person unless you go to a convention. And even then, most of us go Joe hunting alone or purchase on the internet.
And sadly, this hobby is... sparse with its rewards right now. Truth be told, all I can say is... and this is going to be blunt. Look at your situation right now. Think about everything you've done for the last month. Just think. Now, if your wife could magically just look down at you- do you want her to see you like this? No, you don't. She knew you loved her, but she loved you because you were the man you are. And now, you're letting that man die. When you love someone, it's not just because they're a great addition to your life- it's because they're a great addition to the world. Now, go be a great addition to the world and show her that the man she loved was everything she thought. |
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09-09-2017, 07:01 PM | #3 |
The Man You Know & Love
Join Date: Feb 2009
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It sounds like your passion for Joe isn't what it use to be because your wife allowed you to share your passion for Joe with her and with her not there anymore it takes the good feeling out of it. It's awesome knowing your wife took some interest in your Joe passion along with you and you're blessed having that girl in your life for as long as you did. But it will just take some time. Losing someone that close to you can't be easy to deal with or easy to just get over. But I do hope you reach a time in your life to where your passion, not for GI Joes but for all tings, are reignited and you begin living out the things you enjoy. Stay close to us here on the forums. We're here for you.
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09-09-2017, 07:53 PM | #4 |
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I am sorry for your loss, and I can understand how you feel. Don't give up on hope though...as Baron Samedi says, she wouldn't want you to be down.
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09-09-2017, 08:04 PM | #5 |
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If it makes you feel better, I'll be in Austin again in a couple of months. Wanna dump our Joes out on the floor and make a war? I have a shitload of beer!
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09-09-2017, 09:18 PM | #6 |
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Join Date: Jul 2009
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I'm really sorry to hear about your wife. I can't imagine what you've gone through. I can sympathize in a way though. I'm not trying to equate it, but in the past year or so I've had to put my dog to sleep who was my best friend for 14 years, and then this year went through a breakup with a woman I've been with for over 10. So yeah, there's lots of stuff that I used to love to do that just doesn't have the same effect now. They just remind me of what's gone more than anything. I don't want to go to the same places for the memories they spark. It's made me try new things, but I'm a creature of habit. I just want what I had, and for it to last forever. I have found that buying vintage ARAH figures brings back good memories of being a kid though. It helps to remember something from back that far, instead of more recent times.
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09-09-2017, 09:37 PM | #7 |
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Join Date: Jul 2009
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I don't know what to add other than to echo what others have said. I'm really sorry to hear about your loss.
Are there other ways to honor your wife, reignite your passion, and help you mourn? Writing is very therapeutic for some.. Might writing something and getting it published on Kindle Worlds give you an outlet and a new way to engage with the brand that you once loved (as well as having something concrete to dedicate to your wife, something that will last forever)? If so, shoot me a message. I'd love to help. |
09-10-2017, 09:46 AM | #8 |
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Join Date: Dec 2008
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Sorry for Your loss. Terrific thing.
You need to start again Your life right now. Today. With the force of a wounded tiger. Go to the therapist, it is important but it is not enough. Do not close Yourself in Your home, go out, know new people, search for new interest, a new hobby or a brand new sport. Try to met new girls, of every kind, age, color...and for the first times You see her in their eyes. But You need to restart. You live and I'm sure You have a lot to give to other people. G.I.JOEs can help You, collect them again, but it is only a part of the matter. Think that there is a "jerk" in Italy thinking about You and prayng for You now, my Friend. You really are not alone.
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09-10-2017, 12:37 PM | #9 |
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Join Date: Feb 2014
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Hang in there. Just remember that everything's temporary and know that eventually you'll be looking at things differently. Consider yourself fortunate for the time you had with her and hold tight to those memories, but realize that this river of life is gonna keep pushing you forward whether you want to or not. There's no standing still, my friend.
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09-10-2017, 03:01 PM | #10 |
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It's been a long time since I have posted anything on the site or even visited it to be honest. Some of you may remember me some of you this is the first post you have seen from me.
It's hard to explain I still love Joe and my other interests but it just doesn't mean that much anymore. I didn't all of a sudden "grow up" or anything like that. It is now just a month since it marked the two year anniversary of my wife passing away. It still doesn't seem real. She thought it was so cute that I was into Joe as much as I was and when we could still find them on pegs she would call me from stores and say "do you have this guy or this vehicle?" Even when she traveled out of town for work she would find a toy store selling vintage and she would surprise me with something. She never said anything about how much I spent or how big my collection was....well most of the time. God I miss her. My life pretty much ended with her. My therapist said to get back to those things I love....hunting, fishing, camping, Joes, sports...and I am like meh. I try. I really do, but when I do any of those I just don't get the enjoyment anymore. I still get some of the subscription Joes and some old vintage stuff...out of a habit but the joy of it seem gone. We never had kids even though we tried. She loved my plan of having a little boy and once he got to a certain age he would walk down one Christmas morning to find my entire vintage and all the recent Joes there for him. passing on my collection to my son.....that will never happen now. I think once I get my FLAGG and Defiant I may hang it up for good. I just don't know. This board is filled with great guys who all share a passion for Joe. I have met some of you at past conventions, and met up to have a few beers with more than a few times....I'm looking at you Loc, lol. I just thought I'd give it a shot and post. Maybe my passion can get a kick start. Obviously, you'll know when or if dating will ever be in the cards for you, but how about kids? Any thoughts to adopting? Or perhaps you have a nephew or good friends' son where you are the "adopted uncle?" Some little guy, somewhere, that you can bring along into the Joe fold and pass your stuff to? Foster parent maybe? Just sounds like you need someone to share life with, and bring back the color to your existence. Giving back to the community through various volunteer opportunities is another thing that I'm sure would make your wife proud. I know Houston could use your help, and probably help ignite a passion for living! My prayers are with you, my friend.
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