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11-19-2008, 12:56 AM | #221 |
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Just wait, go out with your friends and get your mind off it. Sitting at home and reading page after page of this isn't going to help any (cept for my posts).
On the morality subject, non-violence is LEARNED. Kids hit one another all the time, and we tell them "No" and explain why it's bad. Every kid has bitten, hit or strongarmed another kid for some reason or another. If the lesson that violence is wrong is not taught at a young age, there'd be way more violence than there currently is. Humans can process things like this and make conclusions like "Biting is a no-no, hitting is a no-no. Those things hurt people. Killing is the worst way of hurting people, so it must be a no-no too," which makes us the superior species. |
11-19-2008, 01:01 AM | #222 |
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I would of blamed it on one of your family members." I was holding it for Panchito!"
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11-19-2008, 01:03 AM | #223 |
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I'm so happy my girlfriend doesn't give a crap if I watch porn or have Playboys. She might even look at them.
Seriously, I think her being threatened by you having Playboys and throwing such a tiff about it is just an expression of her immaturity and insecurity. If she were thinking rationally, she would realize that you're still a guy and you looking at a few naked pictures is better than you going out and acting on those feeling for real. Girls who think guys stop having desires for other women once they're in a relationship are in fantasy land. But many guys are strong enough to not act on it for real because they value what they have with that woman. If this is the one big problem you two have and you want to stay with her, I think I would ditch the Playboys, unless you wanna end up with a pile of Playboys and no girl. If you're sincere, I imagine she'd get over her anger about it soon. If she doesn't and some girlie magazines are the end of the world, than she doesn't sound like a good person to be in a relationship with. I'd also be wary if she's controlling in a lot of ways and always has to have her way. Last edited by DetectiveFork; 11-19-2008 at 01:15 AM.. |
11-19-2008, 01:16 AM | #224 |
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Sincerely do you really want to spend anymore time with a person that would hold something relatively small common and normal amongst men over your head for this long. Would you hold something this small over her head for 24 hours. In a good relationship you have to forgive the small things. Maybe give her one more day after that I agree with whoever said it's your turn to get mad after that. She could be a Goddess!!! but if she at some point doesn't understand that you may make mistakes sometimes you'll never have peace in your relationship or an equal partnership. If I rode the couch for a night and really tried everything I could do to make it right without even a little give from tomorrow night I would be at the Holiday Inn
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11-19-2008, 01:19 AM | #225 |
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You ever think some girls act like this because they think that's what they're supposed to do? Getting incurably furious at a guy for having porn and making him sleep on the couch is something out of King of Queens.
BTW, if you have some issues you really love for collector reasons or whatever, I would look into seeing if a friend will let you stash them at his house. Yeah, it's devious, but I usually feel justified in stuff like that when the other person is being a moron. |
11-19-2008, 01:22 AM | #226 |
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I'm so happy my girlfriend doesn't give a crap if I watch porn or have Playboys. She might even look at them.
Seriously, I think her being threatened by you having Playboys and throwing such a tiff about it is just an expression of her immaturity and insecurity. If she were thinking rationally, she would realize that you're still a guy and you looking at a few naked pictures is better than you going out and acting on those feeling for real. Girls who think guys stop having desires for other women once they're in a relationship are in fantasy land. But many guys are strong enough to not act on it for real because they value with they have with that woman. If this is the one big problem you two have and you want to stay with her, I think I would ditch the Playboys, unless you wanna end up with a pile of Playboys and no girl. If you're sincere, I imagine she'd get over her anger about it soon. If she doesn't and some girlie magazines are the end of the world, than she doesn't sound like a good person to be in a relationship with. I'd also be wary if she's controlling in a lot of ways and always has to have her way. You know not Every man looks at Playboys or watches porn.....please you give those of us a bad name.......Not all Women are dumb enough to think guys dont look at other women as Im sure those girls look at other men themselves....but your not him and your not dating her....so please stop with the Im a Macho man who puts my woman in her place......45% of you who talk that crap beat your GFs for having freewill........ Dude (OP) if she means something to you dont listen to this Macho crap........listen to your heart.....Give her time. |
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11-19-2008, 01:25 AM | #227 |
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Sincerely do you really want to spend anymore time with a person that would hold something relatively small common and normal amongst men over your head for this long. Would you hold something this small over her head for 24 hours. In a good relationship you have to forgive the small things. Maybe give her one more day after that I agree with whoever said it's your turn to get mad after that. She could be a Goddess!!! but if she at some point doesn't understand that you may make mistakes sometimes you'll never have peace in your relationship or an equal partnership. If I rode the couch for a night and really tried everything I could do to make it right without even a little give from tomorrow night I would be at the Holiday Inn
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11-19-2008, 01:51 AM | #228 |
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Just wait, go out with your friends and get your mind off it. Sitting at home and reading page after page of this isn't going to help any (cept for my posts).
On the morality subject, non-violence is LEARNED. Kids hit one another all the time, and we tell them "No" and explain why it's bad. Every kid has bitten, hit or strongarmed another kid for some reason or another. If the lesson that violence is wrong is not taught at a young age, there'd be way more violence than there currently is. Humans can process things like this and make conclusions like "Biting is a no-no, hitting is a no-no. Those things hurt people. Killing is the worst way of hurting people, so it must be a no-no too," which makes us the superior species. There's nothing wrong with a woman who isn't ok with porn, and all of you who say he should "have your cake an eat it too" are far too selfish to understand what makes a relationship work. Are you going to mandate that she eat at only restaurants you like? Are you going to say she can't ask you to do certain chores? Are you going to refuse to kill a spider because, as illogical as it may seem to you, she has a severe fear of the things? This situation is no different. She hates the idea if porn, and if he loves her, he should get rid of it. No lies, no going behind her back. If it's not addictive as you claim, he should be able to no problem.
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11-19-2008, 01:54 AM | #229 |
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SMM, how old are you? You sound like an old man who has 3 lifetimes worth of experience. I think you're probably closer to correct than most, but I think he can still stand up for himself and his privacy without making this about her. He is, afterall, the one who screwed up in the first place.
CG, it'll all end up working out for the best in the end, no matter what happens in the next few days. You seem to know the right things to do and say, you just need to give her time. Seriously, I love well-made fake boobs as much as the next guy, but I wouldn't risk my relationship for pictures of them. Now, my privacy? That's another issue. If you have any issues with what she's mad about, those need to be addressed, but waiting is the best way to handle this. Who knows, in another day or so, she may act like it never happened, in which case you don't screw up again. If you're going to screw up again, just dump her and don't waste her time between now and when she finds your stash again. |
11-19-2008, 02:12 AM | #230 |
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RuckusJr didn't you know that you were talking to Dr. Drew (SMM) he has all the answers and knows how to deal with all women. Hey it's real easy a relationship should be 50/50 some times you give some ground and some times shes gives ground. It is always good to talk things out and make sure that you can both be happy!! I can certainly say that not all people will agree on matters but whatever floats your boat!!
Best of luck in the end with whatever happens if it's not meant to be then it just isn't. |
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