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06-25-2011, 05:24 PM | #1 |
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I've kinda been in a pissy mood of late. (I know not a lot of folks here would see that from me) but my firends and family kinda have and the reasoning behind that is this. about 11months ago I was seeing this awesome girl from china who was living here. we never got serious and I was still in the dating phase with her. She was only here till the end of last july and I had been seeing her for about a year. she moved back to china I promised her I would come to see her as I wanted to make a good go of things and about Jan this year she sent me a email telling me that her and her BF (who I have never heard about till then) were moving in together. So I said fair enough maybe he's just a temp thing. anyhu about three days ago I receive Email from her saying how she's hasn't spoken to me in a while and that she has a new job and she was in hospital for 2 months. and she sent me pics of Guess what Her Wedding !! I mean WTF she's home in china less then a year and she's already just married. am I missing somthing here do they not have engagement periods in china ? I just feel uber ticked. and she even said in her Email that she wished I coulda made it to the wedding. I dunno I just have some super mixed emotion. anger for one. ticked for loosing out. I just felt like ranting here to clear my thoughts :( anyone else ever have somthing similar happen to them or have words or sagely advice
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06-25-2011, 07:09 PM | #2 |
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I think infatuation may have blinded you. She was using you. If it wasn't serious, then maybe she didn't feel the need to reveal her boyfriend. She's still in the wrong.
I'm very leery of dating foreign girls. There's too big a cultural and value gap. In canada, there have a lot of broken hearted people who fell in love and married abroad. When the spouse's immigration papers were green lighted he/she arrived in canada. And then immediately divorced! One was marrying for love, the other was using them to get citizen status. It was a shame. They'll even have sex to fake a relationship. Sucks. I don't like to make gross generalizations, but mainland chinese girls marry for money. It's the truth. I'm chinese. I hear it from other chinese as well. I'm trying to be neutral about this. China is still a poor country. Many are trying to move up and the quickest way to do so is to marry rich. If she had lived in Ireland for a few years and adopted its culture and values, chances of a successful relationship would be greater. I'm foreign raised and I have little in common with chinese girls. While travelling in china, my 2 female tourguides suggested hooking me up with a girlfriend. She knew many singles. She was joking with me. So I played along. I jokingly remarked that local girls only marry for money. Oh no, no, no she said. I was told I'd have no trouble finding a girlfriend. I'm chinese but don't look particularly like a local Han chinese. Western educated and speaks english. My chinese is rudimentary. But I'm poor. Yeah right. They'll be knocking down my door. Dating sucks no? |
06-25-2011, 07:23 PM | #3 |
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I'll be honest and I'm a pro when it comes to screwing up anything and everything with women...didn't you ever ask her if she had a man waiting for her or why she didn't?
Were you actually "dating" her as in going out often together and having any kind of intimate and physical relationship with her? |
06-25-2011, 07:30 PM | #4 |
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Were you seeing her and just Pit Vipering her?
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06-25-2011, 08:39 PM | #5 |
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Women suck.
Chinese women are no different than the rest. And no, i don't mean the good kind of suck...
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06-25-2011, 08:55 PM | #6 |
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chinese broads are wacked!
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06-25-2011, 09:18 PM | #7 |
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She did you a favor.
Grief is for when you lose something worth having. If she did you like that, she wasn't worth having. On that note:
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06-26-2011, 06:36 PM | #8 |
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Quote:
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I'll be honest and I'm a pro when it comes to screwing up anything and everything with women...didn't you ever ask her if she had a man waiting for her or why she didn't?
Were you actually "dating" her as in going out often together and having any kind of intimate and physical relationship with her? Quote:
I think infatuation may have blinded you. She was using you. If it wasn't serious, then maybe she didn't feel the need to reveal her boyfriend. She's still in the wrong.
I'm very leery of dating foreign girls. There's too big a cultural and value gap. In canada, there have a lot of broken hearted people who fell in love and married abroad. When the spouse's immigration papers were green lighted he/she arrived in canada. And then immediately divorced! One was marrying for love, the other was using them to get citizen status. It was a shame. They'll even have sex to fake a relationship. Sucks. I don't like to make gross generalizations, but mainland chinese girls marry for money. It's the truth. I'm chinese. I hear it from other chinese as well. I'm trying to be neutral about this. China is still a poor country. Many are trying to move up and the quickest way to do so is to marry rich. If she had lived in Ireland for a few years and adopted its culture and values, chances of a successful relationship would be greater. I'm foreign raised and I have little in common with chinese girls. While travelling in china, my 2 female tourguides suggested hooking me up with a girlfriend. She knew many singles. She was joking with me. So I played along. I jokingly remarked that local girls only marry for money. Oh no, no, no she said. I was told I'd have no trouble finding a girlfriend. I'm chinese but don't look particularly like a local Han chinese. Western educated and speaks english. My chinese is rudimentary. But I'm poor. Yeah right. They'll be knocking down my door. Dating sucks no?
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06-26-2011, 10:30 PM | #9 |
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well cheers for the replies guys. yeah well you would think that she woulda got the message that I really liked her since I got her nice presents for her birthday and xmas and even spontaneously sent her flowers and other gifts twice to her in China. we Had several good dates but I never pushed the boat as tbh I'm a total newb at it and I'm always afaind of A going over bord or be being crap and pushing first base.(yeah I suffer from self-esteem issues). kinda what if I'm to aggressive or pushy and drive her off. kinda thinking.
I won't make fun...I mean I already did but I wont anymore as I've made that mistake long ago. Next time, give it like 3 wks if nothing happens then, then she's not into you with feelings. So on the next date try to kiss her. If she backs up and refuses let her walk home. If she goes with it, take her hand and put it on your...stuff...and see what she does. If she goes with it, by all means have fun. If she backs up let her walk home. I mean you gotta get something out of it! SOMETHING!!.......Fuck, this just made me want to beat up my ex gf's bf. And that was like 4 yrs ago..THIS THREAD JUST PUT A KNIFE IN MY HEART!! |
06-26-2011, 11:28 PM | #10 |
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This is gonna be harsh but, to sum it up: you can only blame yourself.
You said it yourself that it wasn't serious.....how can you even get mad at her? She moved on with her life and, since she wanted to invite you to the wedding, it sounds to me like she ended up just wanting to be friends and she cared enough about you as a friend to want to have you participate in her big day....I really don't think it was to shove anything in your face, I think it was to be honestly friendly (then again, I don't know her, but it doesn't seem like you guys had a bad falling out, it just seems like life went on) If she was playing you, that sucks, but I kinda don't think she was because people who do that don't normally invite their 'victim' to their wedding....they just get what they want and don't come back....so, yeah, I think maybe something happened along the way like you thought it was something it wasn't. I get that you liked her but did you actually TELL her? Anyone can buy things for someone, that doesn't mean it = a relationship of any kind. Perhaps she just thought you were being very friendly. Sorry this happened to you but, on the other hand, it isn't her fault. If you weren't serious with her, you can't blame her for moving on, and if she already had someone, well, dating isn't right at all.....but are you sure it was dating and not just a friends hanging out type of thing (with you)? She may have taken it that way....it sounds stupid but it happens.
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