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08-11-2008, 04:14 PM | #31 |
Cobra Viper
Join Date: Jul 2008
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I think you may be playing with fire here. You need to ask yourself what problems you could find yourself in if your parents yank the money out from under you to sort of teach you a lesson. If they are providing money to you to go to school, take care of health issues, then yeah, they got the right to yank it out from under you if you are using the funds to buy Joes.
I was broke like a mug back in college- was married with a young child on the way. I couldn't afford to buy much of anything. That was back in 93-97. It seemed like the end of the world then but look at the situation now in 2008- we got these 25th Anniversary figures to buy- kind of makes the 90's stuff look pretty insignificant. The point is, this stuff will always be around- either at retail stores like now, estores like Brians toys, BBTS, or even EBay. Put it all in perspective and you will do just fine. I also agree that rewarding yourself occassionally is a good thing too. Next time you knock out an A on a paper, go grab a figure (not a case mind you ) but a figure or so. That's the best I can offer- take care and good luck with it all. CC
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07-16-2018, 04:47 PM | #32 |
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So here is my situation.
Back a few summers ago, I picked up the collecting hobby again. The parent's were OK with it, but they still felt I wasted my money on them. This was when spy troops, and venom vs valor came out. I collected them as a form of entertainment, not because I really wanted them badly So I pretty much stopped collecting Joes after that summer when money wasn't available as much, So when the 25th line came out I stayed away for a bit, but being how they closely resembled the ARAH line and they were "25th anniversary" I was quickly pulled in. Now I spend money I realistically could be using for better things on Joes. Im a poor college student and mostly play for everything on my own (why i'm poor) except my parents help me out with a few health bills. The thing is they don't know I started collecting Joes again, and haven't seen my wall of 56 single figures, 12 comic packs, and not to mention the vehicles i have boxed up in the closet. When I moved i had the joes all purposely packed up so the parents didn't see them. But now the parents are coming up for a visit. Now I have the hunch there going to look at the wall and say something along the lines of: is this why I help pay your health bills. This is where things take a turn for the worst and the parents give me talk about wasting my money. Quite frankly a situation I would rather avoid if I could. Have you had this put on you by your wife/girl friend etc. And is there an easy button for this. I really don't want to have to take down all the MOC figures from the wall whenever I think the parents might drop in. |
07-16-2018, 06:51 PM | #33 |
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Join Date: Feb 2015
Location: Tennessee
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I've been blessed with parents, brothers, a grandmother, and a wife, all of whom have never given me any grief over buying toys, namely G.I. Joes. Heck, they've even been responsible for adding to my collection at one time or another. It's never, ever been an issue for me. Having said that, I'm now forty-four years old, soon to be forty-five...I ain't no spring chicken anymore. (lol) My grandmother and my dad have both since passed-on, God bless them, but my wife still gets it. My older brother even still buys me stuff for my birthday...year before last, he bought me a roached-out vintage Slugger to restore, and this past birthday he got a vintage Mortar Defense Unit, still sealed...it even still has the price-sticker from the local store we used to buy Joes from on it, funny enough...he had bought it from a local antique store we both frequent...
Anyway, my point is, even if I didn't have the support and understanding of family and friends, I would probably buy them and collect them anyway. Loved ones can put alot of pressure on us, especially those that we feel indebted to, but as long as we address and take care of our grown-up responsibilities, there's no reason we can't indulge our hobbies every now and then. I just couldn't imagine denying myself things that made me happy because of what others thought or said. Of course not every situation is the same...we all live in different family dynamics, but...as others have said, as long as one takes care of what they have to, it's not anyone's business what they do with their disposable income.
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07-16-2018, 08:50 PM | #34 |
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Litchfield, ME
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My soon to be ex-wife and I had many conversations about this topic. She wanted all of my figures (Joes and Transformers) gone. I was willing to spend less of my money on them, but was unwilling to give them up entirely. I tried to explain it as a hobby, she wanted me to do something else, like golf. One day shortly before we broke up, she was pissed off because I had left a Transformer out by mistake. She said, “What would you say if you saw a 50 year old man playing with toys?” (For the record, I’m still on the sunny side of 50, but closing in on it.) My response was, “I would say more power to him!” Needless to say, she wasn’t amused. Please don’t misunderstand me, this isn’t the reason we split; there were many other issues going on. After we broke up, she made a snide comment about me having just bought a couple of vintage vehicles off eBay-“Are you enjoying your vintage G. I. Joe vehicle that you bought?” I chose to ignore her. OTH, I have a female friend who is also a geek, and she’s cool with it, especially since she gets Pokémon cards and loves Star Wars.
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07-16-2018, 09:15 PM | #35 |
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Houston
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Man that sucks Lifeline. It's also ironic because my wife and I often joke about how toy collecting is still cheaper than golf and I have something to show for it at the end of the day besides sunburn and a mild hangover.
Ultimately, just like everything else, we have to make our choices. We all have hobbies or other things we spend money on. Our parents and partners are hopefully honest enough with themselves to recognize they do the same things in some capacity. Whether it's eating out multiple times a week, buying DVDs, tinkering on cars or any thousand other things - we all "waste" money to some extent or another. For us, my wife knew about my collecting by our first or second date. She might not have totally understood it, but she was fine with it. That being said, I've never been so attached to anything that I wouldn't sell it if the need arose. I happily sold off a ton of my original toys after we were married to pay for our honeymoon (which we didn't take until our first anniversary). When I got laid off, I sold a bunch more stuff and paid the mortgage for a couple months with the proceeds, stretching my severance. The key (for us) is showing my priorities are straight: the bills are paid, we're putting money in the bank, and I don't go crazy. I give myself a toy allowance and stick [fairly] close to it. I'm also honest about big purchases and work to offset them. I bought the Haslab Khetanna and a Flagg within a month of each other, but I sold another couple grand in toys to pay for them. So it may not be the answer you want to hear but if you're carrying credit card debt (this was me at one point), or sacrificing your health or relationships in pursuit of collecting then yeah - you may need to do some self-assessment. If someone is footing your bills and instead of saving the bulk of your now "extra" money, you're buying toys? That's a good way to lose the gravy train. But, if you're taking care of business and truly only using your discretionary income on something you enjoy, who cares whether someone approves? Hopefully, you find a partner that is able to understand that from the start and doesn't come into things thinking you'll "grow out" of it. That's a bad strategy no matter the subject matter. The only sure solution is honest communication from the start. I'd add it helps if you can explain at least a little bit why you do it - something besides just, "I think they're cool." Sure, that could technically be enough, but it does nothing to help someone see your side of things. "Cool" is often in the eye of the beholder and the person or people in question have clearly indicated they don't necessarily agree. Last edited by Dake; 07-16-2018 at 09:23 PM.. |
07-16-2018, 09:45 PM | #36 |
Cobra Soldier
Join Date: Jun 2018
Location: Atmore Al
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Well, I'm not married but my mom and sister think something is wrong with me for collecting again at my age. but I got the itch again about a year ago. It's better to collect now because I'm an adult, have a good job and can buy when I want and what I want and don't worry about the cost. It kinda makes u feel young again.
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07-16-2018, 09:57 PM | #37 |
I just want foam gliders.
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My wife says Joes keep me off the pipe and away from the pole.
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07-17-2018, 12:44 AM | #38 |
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my wife would nag about it from time to time but im blessed to say she puts up with it and actually looks at them as a reminder of me.
she would say shed sell them in a heart beat if died before her but i seriously asked that question and said she would never cause she knows its my passion and a memory of my livelihood.
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07-17-2018, 04:00 AM | #39 |
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Ignorance is bliss, amirite?
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07-17-2018, 12:03 PM | #40 |
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Join Date: Nov 2007
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I'm single with no kids, so I'm not sure if anything I write counts, but nobody really cares one way or the other. It's what makes me, me. I do know my youngest niece and nephew do like playing with the stuff though, and it keeps them occupied.
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