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08-24-2009, 04:52 PM | #141 |
Iron Grenadier
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Aw free group therapy on Hisstank. Just in case anyone doesn't get it, I call sarcasm
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08-24-2009, 05:41 PM | #142 |
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Everyone on the internets has the assburgers?
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08-24-2009, 06:11 PM | #143 |
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It has taken me a lot of study and experience to realize that a Universe without conflict will fade and die. I don't like that fact, but it is a fact.
Having said that, any group that consistently fights amongst itself will eventually destroy itself. There are ways to have differences of opinion and conflict while still showing respect for each other and remaining in integrity. Kind of like Parliament... well OK maybe they don't do the integrity bit so much. There are times that I think Tankers go over the line and some threads are just disastrous but Id say more often than not I still enjoy visiting this place, maybe I just have a thick skin. I think the Mods do a great job here, but there are certain members, mainly the ones who will read this thread and poo poo on it that could use this kind of advice if they would actually apply it.
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08-24-2009, 06:35 PM | #144 |
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08-24-2009, 06:36 PM | #145 |
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Im doing alot better,there we're 3 or 4 times in a row where I felt like I was being baited or a cheapshot was being taken at me or a post of mine. I chose not to respond because Im tired of going back and forth with certain people,more so,certain types of people. Anyone who actually knows me knows that I do not enjoy any kind of confrontation and that I will usually let shit slide several times before I respond to it, just to avoid having a problem with someone,I'd rather avoid a fight/arguement than win one. My biggest problem is that I have an authority complex and I refuse to allow anyone to talk down to or try to belittle me. Its a wonderful fact that us humans never stop maturing, I am leaning how to pick and choose my battles but more importantly I am learning to ignore ignorance.
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08-24-2009, 07:48 PM | #146 |
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I've put off posting this for a long time. Now I'm just generally bewildered and I want to know- why all the hate? Why are so many posters so hot to belittle others? What is it that compels so many to be so immediately disrespectful and generally nasty in their responses? Not just to me, but to each other?
I belong to several message boards. There's a good deal of friction but NOTHING like I see here. There's the basic explanation that we can't see each other's faces or hear each other's tone of voice, but it's more than that. I've been told about half a dozen times over the past month that my OPINIONS are flat wrong. If I describe a personal experience I'm told that it's wrong or I get a dish of high-and-mighty from people who don't even disagree with me. It's not that I have a problem with someone having a different opinion or idea or POV. It's that SO MANY of the posters here are just plain dicks about things when there's absolutely no call for it. Some of the more hip among you know me and what I do. You understand where my perspective comes from and are very friendly and easy to get along with, even when we have completely opposing viewpoints. Others would probably change their attitudes instantly if they knew, but I'm not going to play that card. I'd rather see people simply govern themselves civilly without preconceptions. An ASTOUNDING number of people here are just plain spoiling for an argument- to the point where you'll create one where none exists. I'm not gonna start a rant about basement-dwelling virgins or who's smarter than who. I know I'm no slouch in the brains department, but I don't have to reassure myself by belittling others or being nasty. One of the great things about GI Joe has always been (to me at least) the team mentality. Everyone brings something to the table. I guess it's just youthful naivete, but I hoped that the Joe fans would be the types to try to consider other viewpoints rather than just dashing off dismissive, insulting tirades or picking net fights. A couple of times I've had people lace into me and then tell me to lighten up. Honey and vinegar and all of that. Or better yet, I get the "it's sad that you take a message board so seriously" from people who are far more active than I here. I challenge you all to hold yourselves to a higher, more civilized standard. I know that this is the internet and I'm probably asking way too much, but if I reach just one person this will have been worth it. Put simply, if you don't have anything constructive, civil, or just plain NOT mean to add, don't respond. I don't envy the mods here because they have the task of trying to sort all of this out and try to keep this place accessible to newcomers. I HOPE this doesn't get immediately shut down or deleted. This isn't intended to piss anyone off and it's not intended to start a flame war. I haven't named any names. I'm not personally attacking anyone. Trust me, I don't know what forums you go to but you've obviously been to some pretty tame forums if you think this one is even really that bad. I could guide you to one forum in particular that I post at in which you wouldn't last a day. Seriously. I don't really know why people are surprised or even bother complaining about members in a forum being rude. You can't expect a forum that consists of people from all parts of the world and all walks of life to sit here and 'behave'. Since you post in several other forums, you should already know this bit of info. It also seems to be certain people who seem to get 'targeted', or at least seem to think they are targeted. Are you really on people's radars or do you just feel insecure and think you are? Not a swipe at you, it's an honest question because I am a VERY blunt person and I have never really had many people attack me. Had a few light disagreements in this forum but nothing more than that. I am more used to getting heat because I am blunt, even if my comments are harsh, which they are not meant to hurt anyone's feelings, I am just a terribly honest person in general. If I think your haircut is stupid, I tell you your haircut is stupid. I just don't see a point in lying to someone just to make them feel better. Most people have never run into a person like me. I am very open about whatever is on my mind and only very few people seem to 'get me' and those are the ones who don't think I'm sitting on a high horse because they know what I mean by what I say and it's not what most people assume. There MUST be a reason why people apparently tell you that you are wrong. Maybe it's the way you word it, I have no idea, I don't recall seeing your posts besides this one, but I can't imagine people here 'picking on you' for no reason at all. There must be something about the way you present your posts that makes people respond the way they do. I have just never seen much activity here in regards to what you are describing. I've seen the odd argument here and there but I haven't really noticed it much so it would probably help to have examples of what threads this happened in. You can't tell people not to post something just because it doesn't please you. It's a general messageboard. If the mods feel it is inappropriate, they'll deal with it. If YOU think it's inappropriate, the best course of action would be to report the post but I have a feeling you didn't and decided to respond to whoever was being rude to you but you haven't given any examples so I don't know what happened anyways. I don't know how old you are but you also have to remember that there are a lot of younger members here as well. I'm not saying that every young person is immature but it is normal for younger people to lack some maturity. We all lack it as youngsters. Some older folks still lack it. It also depends on you as a person. I can see that it has bothered you that these people pick on you and that is why it continues. I've had a guy say things about my mom 'dying in the hospital, she's not going to make it' just to try to push my buttons. I ignored him and he stopped. My cat passed away in June and some guy kept saying she's all full of maggots now (she was cremated so he failed anyways) and I just ignored him and he stopped. You have to grow some balls and not let people on a messageboard bother you. If I were an asshole, I would target you as well because it's clear that things people say do bother you. It's the internet. It's not a big deal. Ignore the idiots and they will go away. Again, none of this is a swipe at you in any way but complaining about people on a messageboard and telling them to simply not respond to a topic is nothing more than a dead end. You need to report the posts and let the mods deal with it. I can guarantee you that the people who do this sort of thing on the net wont read this and suddenly stop. If anything, it will add to their ego because they now know it bothered you enough to get you to type this rant. Tip: USE THE REPORT BUTTON. It's that little triangle with the ! in the middle on the bottom left of your screen.
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08-24-2009, 09:20 PM | #147 |
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08-24-2009, 09:55 PM | #148 |
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I also tend to forget that a lot of people don't know me very well. The ones who do know me know how I am and know that I am being sarcastic.
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08-25-2009, 03:23 PM | #149 |
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Trust me, I don't know what forums you go to but you've obviously been to some pretty tame forums if you think this one is even really that bad. I could guide you to one forum in particular that I post at in which you wouldn't last a day. Seriously.
I don't really know why people are surprised or even bother complaining about members in a forum being rude. You can't expect a forum that consists of people from all parts of the world and all walks of life to sit here and 'behave'. Since you post in several other forums, you should already know this bit of info. It also seems to be certain people who seem to get 'targeted', or at least seem to think they are targeted. Are you really on people's radars or do you just feel insecure and think you are? Not a swipe at you, it's an honest question because I am a VERY blunt person and I have never really had many people attack me. Had a few light disagreements in this forum but nothing more than that. I am more used to getting heat because I am blunt, even if my comments are harsh, which they are not meant to hurt anyone's feelings, I am just a terribly honest person in general. If I think your haircut is stupid, I tell you your haircut is stupid. I just don't see a point in lying to someone just to make them feel better. Most people have never run into a person like me. I am very open about whatever is on my mind and only very few people seem to 'get me' and those are the ones who don't think I'm sitting on a high horse because they know what I mean by what I say and it's not what most people assume. There MUST be a reason why people apparently tell you that you are wrong. Maybe it's the way you word it, I have no idea, I don't recall seeing your posts besides this one, but I can't imagine people here 'picking on you' for no reason at all. There must be something about the way you present your posts that makes people respond the way they do. I have just never seen much activity here in regards to what you are describing. I've seen the odd argument here and there but I haven't really noticed it much so it would probably help to have examples of what threads this happened in. You can't tell people not to post something just because it doesn't please you. It's a general messageboard. If the mods feel it is inappropriate, they'll deal with it. If YOU think it's inappropriate, the best course of action would be to report the post but I have a feeling you didn't and decided to respond to whoever was being rude to you but you haven't given any examples so I don't know what happened anyways. I don't know how old you are but you also have to remember that there are a lot of younger members here as well. I'm not saying that every young person is immature but it is normal for younger people to lack some maturity. We all lack it as youngsters. Some older folks still lack it. It also depends on you as a person. I can see that it has bothered you that these people pick on you and that is why it continues. I've had a guy say things about my mom 'dying in the hospital, she's not going to make it' just to try to push my buttons. I ignored him and he stopped. My cat passed away in June and some guy kept saying she's all full of maggots now (she was cremated so he failed anyways) and I just ignored him and he stopped. You have to grow some balls and not let people on a messageboard bother you. If I were an asshole, I would target you as well because it's clear that things people say do bother you. It's the internet. It's not a big deal. Ignore the idiots and they will go away. Again, none of this is a swipe at you in any way but complaining about people on a messageboard and telling them to simply not respond to a topic is nothing more than a dead end. You need to report the posts and let the mods deal with it. I can guarantee you that the people who do this sort of thing on the net wont read this and suddenly stop. If anything, it will add to their ego because they now know it bothered you enough to get you to type this rant. Tip: USE THE REPORT BUTTON. It's that little triangle with the ! in the middle on the bottom left of your screen. I've been on nastier forums. I understand that there are lots of young folks here and I'm not telling anyone what they can and cannot post. I've never felt targeted per se, though there have been several times where the same individual consistently shows up in threads I have posted in, perhaps baiting me and perhaps just looking to spread whatever it is that person spreads. I've run into plenty of people like you. I surround myself with them. I'm a very openly honest and occasionally facetious person myself. I just grow weary of posting only to have the jerks be the ones who respond most consistently. I'm not running to mama or asking the mods to do something different. I'm asking people not to litter the intarnetz. If I'm talking to a person online or IRL and all that comes out of that person is 30 variations on the word shit and a constant stream of negativity, I stop talking to that person. If my options here at the tank are "put up with it" or "go away" I'm going to make a third option. That is to rally the people who feel the same and try to effect change by holding the offensive posters accountable. If I tell someone they're being a douche, it's two people snarking at each other. If the group as a whole refuses to put up with it, it creates accountability. Sarcasm is fine. Problem is, everyone thinks they're the best at it and that it's amusing to all. Usually it's only amusing to the tool who's attacking everyone. Works in actual conversation, not so much on a board. And while we're on the subject, as much as I appreciate the lesson in how to post and report on a message board, I think I've got it. My method of conflict resolution is just a tad more avant garde than yours. And no, there MUST not be a reason people tell me I'm wrong. There are simply some people who, for whatever reasons, will argue at the drop of a hat. I suppose that qualifies as a reason, though it's a reason completely lacking in logic, integrity or necessity. If I post that the sky is blue, then some chump tells me it's purple with green polka-dots, I really don't see why I should go on with it. Some of the gun-jumpers will argue with me over things that we agree about. Trolls don't NEED a reason. They just troll. I never said I was being picked on. Just that some people are consistently and needlessly combative. I'm not giving examples because I don't want this thread to degenerate into a collection of pissing contests. I think that's easy enough to understand, don't you? I'm not bothered that people 'pick on me' and I don't make myself a target. I'm no mewling kit. I was in the Marines. I know how to 'take it' and I promise you that my balls are full and healthy and not in need of anymore growth. I don't lose sleep over people teasing me. I just get tired of wading through needless bullshit in the pursuit of a civil discussion. If you think that's unreasonable then fine. Enjoy the mire.
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08-25-2009, 03:55 PM | #150 |
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I think I can see why people talk crap to you. Someone offers you some friendly advice and you respond with a bit of a chip on your shoulder.
Either way, it's silly to ask people to not 'litter' the internet. It's an open messageboard for anyone to post freely. If it bothers you that much, report it instead of typing up a huge wall of text 'lecturing' people when you know full well it wont get through to the people who do it. There will always be people on the net who act like idiots. This just shows that it's getting to you so you feel the need to vent about it, whether you want to admit it or not. If no one bothered you in your time here, I doubt you would have made this thread. You've made it clear that it's apparently the same person in particular who bothers you. Report them. I just don't understand why this is hard to do instead of complaining about it and expecting them to read this and follow your advice. I understand what you are trying to do but you can't change the attitudes of these people. A troll is a troll. The mods are here to get rid of the problems. Report it, the mods takes care of the people disrupting the forum, no more insignificant arguments.
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