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11-19-2008, 02:38 AM | #1 |
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I've been gone from here for about a month and just got back tonight. This has been the hardest thing I've yet had to live through. She was 74. The last couple of years she'd lived in an assisted living facility because diabetes had damaged her vision and she couldn't live alone. Dad died in 2005 and her health took a major nosedive right after. I'm an only child and lived 8 hours away. I would visit her a few times a year and now, of course, I am regretting I didn't take more time to go and see her. I did call her every day, though. She was never really happy after Dad's death and especially after her diabetes went crazy right after his funeral and she lost most of her strength and much of her vision. In the end, she developed this condition called myasthenia gravis that shut down her throat and lung muscles. It might have been treatable had it been diagnosed months ago, but she threw up the dye they gave her in the hospital for an x-ray, aspirated and stopped breathing, and they had to revive her and put her on a respirator. She would have been on the respirator pretty much permanently if she had lived and her EEG showed brain damage. She lingered a few days after aspirating, never really regaining consciousness even when she was not sedated, but was slowly getting worse (kidneys, digestive system, etc., shutting down) so after consulting with the doctor we decided to end medical treatment, realizing we were only prolonging the inevitable. She died an hour or so after the respirator was removed. She would not have wanted to live bedridden on a respirator, unable to talk and eat (a feeding tube had been surgically implanted because her throat muscles had shut down and she couldn't swallow anything). It was awful to see her like that. This all started in the latter part of October and she died on November 13. I'm glad it's over but I am going to miss her terribly.
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11-19-2008, 02:42 AM | #2 |
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I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm sure she was a wonderful woman. I will pray for you and your family during this difficult time. If there's any way I can be of assistance, please just let me know.
May God bless you and keep you.
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11-19-2008, 02:43 AM | #3 |
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Sorry to her about your lost! Just remember she will always live on in you.
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11-19-2008, 02:48 AM | #4 |
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sorry to hear about your loss. if sharing this tragedy with us brings even the most minimal comfort for you in this hard time, than I hope my condolences can assist in that.
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11-19-2008, 03:00 AM | #5 |
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You & the Doc made the right decision.
It was her time to go & she would have wanted it that way. My father passed away in '05 as well. Very sorry for your loss, time heals all. |
11-19-2008, 03:04 AM | #6 |
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So sorry to hear of your loss. My deepest condolences to you.
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11-19-2008, 03:10 AM | #7 |
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11-19-2008, 03:12 AM | #8 |
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Im glad that her suffering is now over. And though it may seem that yours is still going, take some comfort in the knowledge that she isnt in any pain anymore.
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11-19-2008, 03:42 AM | #9 |
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My father was taken from me and my family by a drunk driver in 04'. It still kills me everyday. I feel for you ... my most deepest sympathy is with you in your time of suffering.
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11-19-2008, 04:02 AM | #10 |
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Wow man..never thought of that until now. Mother is in her late 60's and father in his lare 70's and they both have health problems. Because of what you said, I'm gonna see them soon. Hey man, you now have someone watching over yoy but its not up there, its in your heart. I'm very sorry for your loss.
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