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11-19-2008, 10:57 AM | #41 |
Crimson Commander
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BJ,
I am sorry for your loss. I can't begin to fathom the hurt you are going through. Remember all of the great times in the past and hold on to those memories. Your Mom is in a better place now. Gods blessings to you and your family. |
11-19-2008, 11:11 AM | #42 |
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Sorry for your loss, Your mother is in a better place now, so all you can do is move forward and continue to live your life. Learn from this, if there are any Uncles/ Aunts left do not take it for granted. I had a buddy die alst week and it really put things into perspective for me. I have not seen my folks more in the last two weeks than I have since my friend passed away. I read some of these posts and I have to say, you truly see the good side of the human race in times of hardship. This community.... we should all be proud to say "I am part of it along with you"
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11-19-2008, 11:19 AM | #43 |
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11-19-2008, 11:28 AM | #44 |
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Very sorry to hear this news, BJ. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
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11-19-2008, 11:47 AM | #45 |
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i don't even know what to say...i'm so sorry for you...i dred the day my mom passes and can't imagine how hard it must be...i'm sure most of us have had to deal with the death of a loved one so the majority of us can sympahize...for her, the suffering is over, and she is now in Gods care...it can't get any better than that for her...
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11-19-2008, 11:49 AM | #46 |
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I'm so sorry for your lose. All I can say is that I feel you made the best decision, and she wouldn't want to suffer, or for you too either.
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11-19-2008, 11:51 AM | #47 |
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I'm sorry to hear that man. My best friend's dad died exactly three weeks ago today. My best friend died back in 1997, and he was an only child. When I was still living in Toronto, I'd go visit him twice a year, on his birthday and his death anniversary. I would go visit him on the anniversary with his dad. I haven't been able to keep that up now that I'm living in Dallas, and I haven't spoken to his dad in more than a year. I regret that now, as I know his dad appreciated me hanging out with him on that day and I haven't been able to do that in 2 years. But I know my boy still watches over me, and it's comforting to know that him and his dad are together now. BJ, rest assured that your mother is in a better place now. My prayers are with you man.
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11-19-2008, 12:02 PM | #48 |
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Thank you all for the condolences.
I'm actually coping with it well...so far. This morning was the first time I had the thought "I need to call Mom" and then, well, remembered that I don't. I chickened out and deleted her number from my phone before she died. I knew it would be harder after the fact. I deal with it by letting myself cry when the feelings of sadness come over me, which they do from time to time. I don't fight it. So I get it out a little bit at a time instead of holding it all in and then having a major breakdown. My attitude is basically positive as well. I'm not angry about what happened. I hate that she did suffer before she died and she had to see it coming, but I accept it as what was meant to be. My principle problem is regret. I regret that I was not kinder to her and gave more of myself to her with a free heart when she was alive. I knew, particularly after Dad's death, that her time would come but I consistently chose to be selfish. Not to say I didn't do anything for her, but I could have done more. One more visit a year would not have killed me. Having a more receptive attitude to the list of things she wanted me to do when I came to visit her would not have killed me. I could have done some more things for her without having to be asked. I was just lazy and selfish. Many things I did do for her I did grudgingly because she asked me. That really stings now. I've been blessed with a supportive family through this. My aunts and uncles have been great. They are the ones who took care of my mom's needs with me living so far away. My mom's younger brother and his wife (who live in the same town where she did) ran all her errands for her and took her to the doctor, etc. and called/visited her almost every day. And then my mom's sister's husband managed her finances for her. They are all very good, honorable people and I don't deserve them. We were all in agreement about what Mom would have wanted when it became clear she wasn't going to get any better and if she somehow did live she'd be bedridden on machines in a nursing home. I know a lot of families fight when things like this happen but we had solidarity and I am grateful for that. Well, anyway, thanks again for the condolences. Last edited by Barefoot Jedi; 11-19-2008 at 12:04 PM.. |
11-19-2008, 12:18 PM | #49 |
proud YoJoeSexual
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sorry to hear it........mine did that when i was 21...sister did it when i was....25....dad did it when i was 31.
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11-19-2008, 12:33 PM | #50 |
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Very sorry to hear about your mom. Hope you and your family are doing as well as can be expected.
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