considering selling my collection

[fredro]

My wife is now going back on me having any place for my figures and vehicles. Mostly. ME figures. Many are customs I have made. Also.several vehicles including retaliation hiss and ghost hawk II

[mordengard]

that sucks man

[Steelgrave]

Getting rid of the crap is the smartest thing you can do. Free up your space & if you ever have to move packing will be a lot easier. The shit really is useless.

[Un_Chakal]

Sucks that a man lets a woman define his life.

[Energon Viper]

Is selling it going to make you happy? If not then don't. Just store it somewhere if you have to.

I once had a girlfriend give me an ultimatum. The toys or her. Im still collecting toys. Granted that she wasn't my wife but yeah I can't deal with someone tryin to mess w my hobby I love so much. The funniest part is that after she move out I put my entire collection in storage for two years. My current girlfriend pretty much hates my collection but at least she already KNOWS she can just hit the road before I'm gonna be rid of my stuff.

Don't lose your wife over joes but damn if that ain't a bitch she's trying to make you be rid of them. Maybe it says even more about your relationship..

How big exactly is your collection? You make it sound small

[Dreadnok Rocksteady]

Keep all the customs, let go of the stuff that you don't have a real attachment to. It's a harsh thing to do, but if she's really pushing, you'll find some stuff you don't want so much. But she should let you keep some of them, I'm sure she has loads of stuff too, everybody does.

[theprocess]

I quit once too...I came back five years later.

[Trench Viper]

Toys (even G.I. Joes, no matter how sacred) should never become the centerpoint of a rift in your marriage. If getting rid of part of your collection is vital to preserving it, by all means, sell it. Even Larry Hama has to answer to a higher power. His wife.

[Colonel Bludd]

i never understood house holds where the woman seems to wear the pants. How do guys even let it get to the point where she can tell you what to do with your stuff?

[fredro]

Is selling it going to make you happy? If not then don't. Just store it somewhere if you have to.

I once had a girlfriend give me an ultimatum. The toys or her. Im still collecting toys. Granted that she wasn't my wife but yeah I can't deal with someone tryin to mess w my hobby I love so much. The funniest part is that after she move out I put my entire collection in storage for two years. My current girlfriend pretty much hates my collection but at least she already KNOWS she can just hit the road before I'm gonna be rid of my stuff.

Don't lose your wife over joes but damn if that ain't a bitch she's trying to make you be rid of them. Maybe it says even more about your relationship..

How big exactly is your collection? You make it sound small

It has over 150 figures about 20 vehicles

[Energon Viper]

Aw man. That's about the same size as my collection. Not that small. Kinda hard to stash huh

[cobratrooperlui]

It's your hobby, it's part of who you are. It's like if you where a rock climber, (and you very well could be) and she demanded you stop doing it. You would always love rock climbing and you wouldn't be happy if you stopped because someone wanted you to and you obliged.
Same here, you collect G.I.Joes and you love it. If you got rid of your collection you will not be happy.
Who's running this operation anyway..?

[CVdelgado]

sell the stuff you DONT REALLY want. ive got a bunch of stuff to let go, both from my own collection and from stuff i bought and saved for my son. its a normal part of collecting, id say. reevaluating and trimming...

not "letting" you have "any" place for your stuff doesnt sound right. even if you only kept 1 book case and rotated what you had on display from time to time (keeping the rest in a couple of rubbermaind totes), i dont think she can justify telling you you can have ANY place for your stuff.

does she work? even taking care of your children and housework is work. thats what my wife does and she works very hard. you said "I pay the bills." if she doesnt do her share of work she should probably just stop giving you ultimatums. even if she does work, and viewing her as an equal power in the relationship, her position is still hard to defend.

[Kaboomskie]

My friend, you just need 1 big ass display cabinet, store it all as neatly as possible and there you have it.

I chose "keep it put it in storage"

[whitefox360]

Man, say what you will about joes just being toys and yadda yadda, a lot of you guys are just fucking pathetic. I mean that in every rude and offensive way i can, too. Fucking. Pathetic.

This guy pays the bills AND gets told what to do...you know, and i mean this sincerely, if you guys werent so hard up and willing to worship any bit of pussy thatll stay still for an hour, you might actually get some worth having once in a while.

Tell the bitch, no, call the cops, say she hit you and while shes gone throw all her shit outside so you can get a woman whos not a worthless piece of shit.

Fuck compromise and fuck whatever candle flavored pier one trailer park wicker bullshit she wants the house done in. WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU?

You guys make me sick sometimes.

[CrimsonGuard101]

Time to find a new wife it sounds like...sorry..but Joes come first lol...she can either accept them on display or move out and pay any required child support to support your troops. I ever get married I am having her sign a prenup that dictates she causes any harm to my collection...she shall payeth the full amount in alimony...

[PhantomStranger]

Sell what you truly have no need or want for, but keep your most prized possessions.

I guess I can understand a collection starting to clutter up a room or house and it becoming a problem, but I still never understood the idea of a significant other wanting to completely rid someone of their possessions/hobby. Might as well say:"Honey I love you for who you are, I just want to change aspects of you because of who you are"

[CVdelgado]

Man, say what you will about joes just being toys and yadda yadda, a lot of you guys are just fucking pathetic. I mean that in every rude and offensive way i can, too. Fucking. Pathetic.

This guy pays the bills AND gets told what to do...you know, and i mean this sincerely, if you guys werent so hard up and willing to worship any bit of pussy thatll stay still for an hour, you might actually get some worth having once in a while.

Tell the bitch, no, call the cops, say she hit you and while shes gone throw all her shit outside so you can get a woman whos not a worthless piece of shit.

Fuck compromise and fuck whatever candle flavored pier one trailer park wicker bullshit she wants the house done in. WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU?

You guys make me sick sometimes.

topics like this generate responses that are useful in establishing both one's character and intelligence. you just failed both dude.

[Python_Puckman]

It has over 150 figures about 20 vehicles

I've got 200+ figures out on display, but they are all on shallow shelves on the wall in my office. They take up no space and act as a sort of wall art :) Stick them on a wall in your garage if you have to...

[troublemagnet]

topics like this generate responses that are useful in establishing both one's character and intelligence. you just failed both dude.
I think he does have character-it's just that he's not being very eloquent-but us men need to stop believing the media's constant hype on how women are "goddesses".They're called the weaker sex for a reason-not just because they're physically weaker, women are also emotionaly and mentally weaker too.

[drunknmunky]

Tell her you don't like her crap that's out and that you'll put some stuff away if she does the same. Seriously you guys are in it together. If she can't accept your hobby that don't accept hers- meaning tell her you don't like the girly pictures or whatever in the house. They're not just toys, they're part of who you are. There's no reason you shouldn't be able to have a little bit of display space in the house. Luckily my wife is cool as hell and lets me have half the bedroom for whatever I want. That includes 6 shelves, 2 large bookshelves, 1 Deltof cabinet, tons of loose figures vehicles. Even planes hanging from the ceiling. She may keep the door closed when company is over but you can't win them all.

[RuckusJr]

i never understood house holds where the woman seems to wear the pants. How do guys even let it get to the point where she can tell you what to do with your stuff?

Sucks that a man lets a woman define his life.

It's your hobby, it's part of who you are. It's like if you where a rock climber, (and you very well could be) and she demanded you stop doing it. You would always love rock climbing and you wouldn't be happy if you stopped because someone wanted you to and you obliged.
Same here, you collect G.I.Joes and you love it. If you got rid of your collection you will not be happy.
Who's running this operation anyway..?

Time to find a new wife it sounds like...sorry..but Joes come first lol...she can either accept them on display or move out and pay any required child support to support your troops. I ever get married I am having her sign a prenup that dictates she causes any harm to my collection...she shall payeth the full amount in alimony...

I think he does have character-it's just that he's not being very eloquent-but us men need to stop believing the media's constant hype on how women are "goddesses".They're called the weaker sex for a reason-not just because they're physically weaker, women are also emotionaly and mentally weaker too.

These guys obviously have never been in successful relationships, so ignore this. Relationships are about compromise and communication. Talk with her, I'm sure you'll be able to come to some sort of compromise. This is your wife, she is supposed to be the love of your life and you hers. Neither of you are willing to end your relationship over some fucking toys, but obviously something needs to change. Talk to her, work it out.

Is there more to the story that you're not telling? Is she the breadwinner with you not helping financially? Are you guys sort of hard up for money? Have you broken an agreement about how much you'd spend? Are you taking over the house with your hobby? Do your shelfs look like a disheveled mess? There's almost always more than "I don't like them" to the story in my experience with friends.

[ilzuccone]

were you collecting when you got married? remind her that the collection came with the marriage. there are things about my wife that bug me (very few things) and vis versa. but we knew about all those things coming into the marriage. so we just move past it. she knows i'll always leave a stack of dishes in the sink and a stack of comics by the bed. that's who i am. you can't change a man. talk it over with the woman make some compromises. don't change who you are it'll just come back later in a big ball of bitterness.


or the other side of me says sale her keep the joes.

[CrimsonGuard101]

These guys obviously have never been in successful relationships, so ignore this. Relationships are about compromise and communication. Talk with her, I'm sure you'll be able to come to some sort of compromise. This is your wife, she is supposed to be the love of your life and you hers. Neither of you are willing to end your relationship over some fucking toys, but obviously something needs to change. Talk to her, work it out.

Is there more to the story that you're not telling? Is she the breadwinner with you not helping financially? Are you guys sort of hard up for money? Have you broken an agreement about how much you'd spend? Are you taking over the house with your hobby? Do your shelfs look like a disheveled mess? There's almost always more than "I don't like them" to the story in my experience with friends.

Or better yet, how about ignoring all of us and go to a marriage counselor...Rukus nor any of us should be any consideration on your part with what to do ultimatley. This is between you and your wife and it should stay that way.

[RuckusJr]

Or better yet, how about ignoring all of us and go to a marriage counselor...Rukus nor any of us should be any consideration on your part with what to do ultimatley. This is between you and your wife and it should stay that way.

don't go all ben tout of shape timmeh.

[Raw Dog]

I need more information before I can give you what I think would be sound advice .

[JoeMama]

your wife is right. you should really be kicking yourself for buying Retaliation vehicles.

[Van Hammer]

Well I'd ask her if you can keep it in storage.If she doesn't like the idea sell your collection.Your wife is more important than toys.

[JoeMama]

Your wife is more important than sex toys.

fixed?

[Raw Dog]

How important is your collection to you? Why doesn't she want it on display?

[abesapien2]

Put them in storage until you figure out to how get your mancave. Then you can post a sign on the door that reads: "No girlz allowd!"

[Raw Dog]

Am I the only one that views 150 figures and 20 vehicles as too small of a collection worth sweating over?

[fredro]

I am the only one working. The collection was in one corner for about 3 feet and was as neat as I can make it. When we moved in to the place I was told I could have a corner and would be able to hang the aircraft. Now its a nobody andshe wants the Joe's gone. As for spending too much money on it I am always the last I'm the house to get stuff and on more than one occasion I have taken back things to get money to buy her stuff. One example is 40 unopened figures and 8 unopened vehicles so she could get a new laptop.

[Raw Dog]

I am the only one working. The collection was in one corner for about 3 feet and was as neat as I can make it. When we moved in to the place I was told I could have a corner and would be able to hang the aircraft. Now its a nobody andshe wants the Joe's gone. As for spending too much money on it I am always the last I'm the house to get stuff and on more than one occasion I have taken back things to get money to buy her stuff. One example is 40 unopened figures and 8 unopened vehicles so she could get a new laptop.

It sounds like you have issues deeper than your toy collection that you both need to work out. I'd suggest couples counseling over online polls on a toy forum. I'm being serious bro, and I wish you the best of luck. :)

[Viperscout 7]

Gotta Agree with Raw Dog Counseling might NEED to be the route taken. your Friends or fellow collectors will agree with you her friends with her get a professional opinion

[troublemagnet]

These guys obviously have never been in successful relationships, so ignore this. Relationships are about compromise and communication. Talk with her, I'm sure you'll be able to come to some sort of compromise. This is your wife, she is supposed to be the love of your life and you hers. Neither of you are willing to end your relationship over some fucking toys, but obviously something needs to change. Talk to her, work it out.

Is there more to the story that you're not telling? Is she the breadwinner with you not helping financially? Are you guys sort of hard up for money? Have you broken an agreement about how much you'd spend? Are you taking over the house with your hobby? Do your shelfs look like a disheveled mess? There's almost always more than "I don't like them" to the story in my experience with friends.

Don't presume that I have an unsuccessful relationship-I don't put up with bullshit. I wear the pants. I'm the leader of the family. The final decesions rest with me.I'm willing to compromise-but it's my way or the highway.

[Energon Viper]

Fuck that we've already been counciling him here for 3 pages lol. Who better to consult than us fellow collectors? Well the ones of us that have actually had successful relationshsips with women that is. The simple fact that you posted here means you're upset. You already know there's a problem. Maybe your marriage is a mess maybe it's not I have no idea but even if we just focus strictly on the toy issue, there's still several factors to consider..


Just be reasonable. Are you trying to hang sky strikers and true heros ac 130s in the living room?? I can see where a woman wouldn't be down with that. Do you have an area of te place to yourself at all? If not you need to make one. Are you in a very small apartment or something? I've been there before man. Even then, one little corner shouldn't be too much to ask..

Does she just hate the fact that you collect in general?

[Cobra Terrorist]

Don't presume that I have an unsuccessful relationship-I don't put up with bullshit. I wear the pants. I'm the leader of the family. The final decesions rest with me.I'm willing to compromise-but it's my way or the highway.

Haha, I like that post! ^^^

F'n right!

[the odinson]

I'm willing to compromise-but it's my way or the highway.

even you have to see that this makes no sense.

[JoeMama]

is she an asian stripper with bi-sexual fantasies? cause if she ain't, well, her opinion don't mean @!@#!.

[DRF007]

That's right, air your dirty laundry for our amusement! Some can all get worked up as if it actually affected themselves!

[MonkeyBoyZ]

When my father met my mother he was in a band. After they married she started laying down rules, like quit the band, stop skate boarding and sell your motorcycle. For some reason he stayed with her for 10 years and then they divorced. All that time he spent not doing things he enjoyed is wasted. When I married my wife she knew I was a man boy. She understood that at times I would be manly and kill spiders and at others I would freak out over a toy. You don't force a person to change in a good relationship, you grow with them.

[Python_Puckman]

Make some custom Joes out of lilac-scented wicker. Win-win

[Raw Dog]

Stop being sexist.

But please don't stop being hilarious.

[Cobra Terrorist]

Stop being sexist.

Van....stop it.:D

Have a couple long, nasty, drawn-out relationships with crazy chicks then come back and tell me if your opinion's changed, lol.


But please don't stop being hilarious.

Yes, basically this. ^^^

[JoeJunkie]

You gotta figure out why she's changed her mind. Does she think they're ugly? Silly waste of money? Taking up the space that she wants to put some new decoration?

Is there some "need" -- real or perceived -- in her life that she "feels" -- again, it does not matter whether the feeling is based in reality -- is not being met that would be met if you weren't spending money on the toys?

Does she "feel" like you are giving the toys more attention than you should? More attention than you give her? Does she "feel" like they are more important to you than her?

I don't know you, don't know her, don't know how long y'all have been together, or how well y'all typically get along. . .but it sounds like y'all need to start with some open, honest communication -- without condescension, insults, or personal attacks.

Best marriage advice I can give -- personal pride/clinging to "my rights" (of either or both participants) is the cause of ALL interpersonal conflict. When both sides can be more selfless than selfish, more giving than getting, then that relationship will be great.

[CrimsonGuard101]

You gotta figure out why she's changed her mind. Does she think they're ugly? Silly waste of money? Taking up the space that she wants to put some new decoration?

Is there some "need" -- real or perceived -- in her life that she "feels" -- again, it does not matter whether the feeling is based in reality -- is not being met that would be met if you weren't spending money on the toys?

Does she "feel" like you are giving the toys more attention than you should? More attention than you give her? Does she "feel" like they are more important to you than her?

I don't know you, don't know her, don't know how long y'all have been together, or how well y'all typically get along. . .but it sounds like y'all need to start with some open, honest communication -- without condescension, insults, or personal attacks.

Best marriage advice I can give -- personal pride/clinging to "my rights" (of either or both participants) is the cause of ALL interpersonal conflict. When both sides can be more selfless than selfish, more giving than getting, then that relationship will be great.

yes give up everything, never say a word, never ask anything of each other, and just frolic naked through the golden fields of barley of west Kansas as 2 lving jay birds in a paradise free of all things human and real...I picture unicorns prancing int he distance as the 2 run off like Adam and eve and partake of the fruit of knowledge..

I leave with the loving cherished words of Sting:

You'll remember me when the west wind moves
Upon the fields of barley
You'll forget the sun in his jealous sky
As we walk in the fields of gold

So she took her love
For to gaze awhile
Upon the fields of barley
In his arms she fell as her hair came down
Among the fields of gold

Will you stay with me, will you be my love
Among the fields of barley
We'll forget the sun in his jealous sky
As we lie in the fields of gold

See the west wind move like a lover so
Upon the fields of barley
Feel her body rise when you kiss her mouth
Among the fields of gold
I never made promises lightly
And there have been some that I've broken
But I swear in the days still left
We'll walk in the fields of gold
We'll walk in the fields of gold

Many years have passed since those summer days
Among the fields of barley
See the children run as the sun goes down
Among the fields of gold
You'll remember me when the west wind moves
Upon the fields of barley
You can tell the sun in his jealous sky
When we walked in the fields of gold
When we walked in the fields of gold
When we walked in the fields of gold

[JoeMama]

You gotta figure out why she's changed her mind. Does she think you're ugly?

fixed.

[JoeMama]

Does she "feel" like you are giving the toys more attention than you should? More attention than you give her? Does she "feel" like they are more important to you than her?


do you FEEL?
LIKE I do...
Do you FEEL?
LIKE I do ...
(guitar solo)

[133mhz]

If you're the one who supports the household by paying the bill, then you should have some saying on it.

Women of today seem to have a problem with everything a man does: Friends, outting, gym, work, school, etc. It's not y intention to put you down, but get some respect from her. It's not a macho thing, but the right thing to do in this situation.

[JoeJunkie]

There's probably more going on in her mind than she's saying. Telling him to get rid of the toys is probably some kind of lashing out, when really there's some deeper problem/resentment/anger going on that he hasn't noticed and/or she can't even pinpoint or articulate to him.

If you're the one who supports the household by paying the bill, then you should have some saying on it.

That's the selfishness I was talking about. Does he have the right to buy the toys since he's making the dough and paying the bills? Absolutely. But clinging to that right will be a potential source of conflict. Just because someone has the right to do something, doesn't mean he should do it. And I'm not trying to single out the OP here; she could be doing the same thing/harboring the same mentality.

The main question is: is your right to buy/have toys (or go to the gym, or hang with the fellas, go to the games, watch sports, or whatever it is that's your "thing") more important than HER? A lot of times we push the issue and insist on having our way ALL THE TIME. That does nothing but give her a sense of insecurity, and a feeling that "that thing" is more important than her. Give it up a few times, and I bet you'll find she's more agreeable to "that thing."

And I didn't say give up everything and frolic naked. But hopefully there's more substance in the marriage that would make it worth getting rid of the toys if that's what it takes to keep the relationship strong. GI Joes are not worth -- hypothetically here, don't know that this is the case in the OP's situation -- coming home from a hard day of work to an angry wife who is festering hate in her heart toward you because you love little plastic men more than her. Peace at home and peace of mind is worth way more than toys.

But hey, what do I know? I've only been happily married for 11 years AND have a ridiculous, unorganized cluttery mess of a toy collection that spans three rooms of my home.

[youdoitimbusy]

I know how you feel, my wife made me stop doing hood rat shit with my friends...ahhh how I miss hood rat shit.

[JoeJunkie]

Final thought for the night. . .don't go and sell them just to make her happy, IF that is going to make you resentful towards her. That won't help either.

I think you haven't found the root of the problem yet.

[fredro]

The Joe's are staying. She came and apologized . She just had been balling up anger at someone else and took it out on me.

[C.I.A.D.]

^ Glad to hear it.

For any further advice, I nominate JoeJunkie.

[SonOfMindbender]

I would ask her why she's out of the kitchen. In all seriousness, maybe there's another place she will be happier with you displaying Joes? Is there something she wants? If I buy a big item, I let my wife splurge on something so the fairness wheel stays in place. There's always storage if your unsure of selling right away. Remember, "Happy Wife, One Less Bullet To Use. "

[Colonel Bludd]

For the poster who suggested "don't listen to these guys" I've been in a relationship for 5 years with the same woman and a 2 year old son with joes and all. I established things from the start. This is what it is and you can either roll with it or get up and let someone else sit in that passenger seat.

I'm just going to go there. I was raised by men. I had a father and a grandfather so I know how its supposed to be. No woman or anyone for that matter is telling me what I can or cannot do in my own house. That is just the natural order of things.

A lot of dudes who were raised by single women really have that mentality of asking a woman permission or getting a woman approval for things. America as a whole has become so soft and feminized that you guys are actually coming up with corny loopholes like "you should ask her what you can keep and hide it so she can't see it" and "why don't you get rid of what you don't need". none of us really NEED joes. We WANT it. What is the whole point of making all this money if you aren't going to get what you want?

Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying women just need to do what men say and belong in the kitchen. A man is meant to be leader of the household and anyone who says otherwise is just a sucker. Its the same as women with a thousand shoes. You would never tell her to get rid of her shoes. So why should you get rid of your joes?

[Colonel Bludd]

Also, one more tidbit to add. Lets just say you end up getting a divorce down the line. So now you are joeless and woman less crying in a corner talking about it felt so real. What will you have to show for yourself? don't end up crying in a corner. keep your stuff.

[grunt0341]

Wether it's your collection or the way you dress neither a wife nor a girlfriend should push you to compromise you...she wouldn't let you do it to her. My wife has a Barbie and anime collection and she has helped me build my collection. Even as we are looking to buy a house she has the realtor scouting places to accommodate us.