The Problem With "Family"

[sgtapon]

So last night. My boss from my old job called. They want me to come back and work because I'm good at my job. Anyways as alot of you know i had a whole situation where i was going to be moving then my ex told me forget it so i basically bought bus tickets for nothing. The next day my sister kicked my kids out of her daycare. So I've been out of work for roughly 2 weeks (which has been driving me freakin nuts) therefore I have no money which means no daycare, diapers, joes etc. etc. etc. Well just a few minutes ago my boss calls me again. She is desperate and needs me to come into work. I talk to my family about it they just ask what is the state doing about daycare (I'm on state help because I'm poor sorry if that offends anyone but I'm taking all the help I can get at the moment). I explained that situation to them and then they all get up and walk out the door to go to church leaving me at home with no baby sitter so I can't go to work. I find it funny cause "they" want me to be able to get ahead get my bills paid get my own place. Yet when I need a little help so that can happen they aren't willing to help. For "so called" christians this whole "do unto others" bit I'm starting to feel is nothing but a load of crap! All I want to do is get my life somewhat back on track so I can get back to work get my own place so me and my kids are somewhat happier but if i try to ask my family for help i know its not going to happen. So much for "Family" I'd have better luck talking to my dead relatives.

[fred V]

first,you dont have to appologize for saying you're poor or need help,all of us need it here and there,i cant offer much eccept hang in there and stay strong,there is a saying i like to remember when the shit hits the fan...*this to shall pass*...good luck.

[vadersquest]

Man we all come into hard times. I lost my job last year and I came very close to loosing everything so there is no need to apologize. I can not offer much but maybe I can help you out with something else (advise). If you want to hear what I have to say send me a PM.

[Unclassified]

yeah dude . jus hang in there, "im sorry " to hear your troubles lifes sucks at times man but there are times when things get better. an it sucks to take one step forward an have to take five backwards bro. an the way i am an see things. if i find out someone cant help me or look out for me then when the times right an im where i need to be i cut em out my life. not that its their job to give up their life to watch your kids so you can work. but chucrch come'on, is it really that important. you religious pple are mislead wit info anyway. the bible only holds what the chucrch wanted in it, anyway. i feel ya brother, i think they should of helped you out, an for a family member to do that is kinda black.

[sharke]

peaks and valleys dude! as for babysitting, do you have any reliable friends? sure you already thought of that though...

[sgtapon]

peaks and valleys dude! as for babysitting, do you have any reliable friends? sure you already thought of that though...

to be honest the only friends i really have are on here....

[crazyfellow1]

to be honest the only friends i really have are on here....

heh, me too

[themindcage]

My family and I ended up homeless 2 years ago, we moved 3 states away to a rental home, and after the landlord found out i had 4 kids, he backed out, after we had already spent all our money getting there. I wasent working nor my wife. we were F$#@!D....
we had a storage unit, which held everything we had, then drove another state away to stay with relatives, we never met!....
the kids missed school for a month and a half. it was horrible....
just hang in there dude!, things get better!...

[fred V]

heh, me too

me 3....

[HonestAbeJoeHooah]

I could type a whole lot of things right here but, words just get in the way sometimes. I am sorry for your hardships right now and, hope things get better for you very soon. The thing about Family or people in general is they often do not know what to do in order to help. People most of the time do not act the way that we feel they should and, it does hurt the most when we are in those really critical times in our life. I could tell you about all the hardships we have had to face in the last 18 months especially...not sure if it would be the key to the help you need though.

We all hope you pull through and, that things work out man. I know it is not easy but, try not to get any more discouraged than you are...things are only going to get better.

[camper]

Yes, and we Christians will be praying for you, "misled" or not.
Next time ask your family to take the children to the children's services at their church while they attend adult services. That would free you up for work.
I am familiar with your story, I have read many of your posts, and I feel for you and your situation. My family and I will keep you on our prayer lists. Your friends here will help in any way we can.

[hectorxd]

I dont think blaming your christian relatives is the right way to go. And expecting them to be perfect and to do all that you expect of them is well... you can fill in the blank.

Im sorry this has happened to you. You could always put up a flier or something at your local high school saying you are looking for child care, or contact a babysitting agency which might be cheaper than a day care and would free you up for work. Or work at night while they are sleeping.

[mikeTime]

Yes, and we Christians will be praying for you, "misled" or not.
Next time ask your family to take the children to the children's services at their church while they attend adult services. That would free you up for work.
I am familiar with your story, I have read many of your posts, and I feel for you and your situation. My family and I will keep you on our prayer lists. Your friends here will help in any way we can.

So far I like this Idea the best. Take the kids to church or maybe work. Do what you have to do for your family. God bless.